Cannabis and Sex and the Prehistoric Origins of Modern Love with Dr. Christopher Ryan
In 2010, Dr. Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha published Sex at Dawn – How we mate, why we stray and what it means for modern relationships – a New York Times Bestseller.
Dan Savage called it “The single most important book on human sexuality since Kinsey unleashed Sexual Behavior in the Human Male on the American public in 1948”. In this controversial and thought-provoking book, Ryan and Jetha debunk almost everything we “know” about sex, weaving together convergent, frequently overlooked evidence from anthropology, archaeology, primatology, anatomy, and psychosexuality to show how far from human nature monogamy really is. The authors expose the ancient roots of human sexuality while pointing towards a more optimistic future illuminated by our innate capacities for love, cooperation, and generosity.
A special Valentine’s edition of Higher Education, we are excited to pair an evening of cannabis and sex as we welcome Dr. Ryan to expand upon the theories set forth in Sex at Dawn and the direction of human sexuality in the 21st century. Our musical guest is experimental opera singer Roxanna Walitzki, performing at 7:30 and special Valentine’s treats provided by Babeland and The Goodship.
8:00 pm February 14th, 2018 – Melrose Market Studios, Seattle
Doors open at 7:00, special musical guest at 7:30, lecture at 8:00
We had the chance to catch up with Dr. Ryan to ask him a few questions about sex, Bonobos and Artificial Intelligence. Bring your own questions for Dr. Ryan on February 14th for the Q & A follow-up to his lecture.
Q: Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day?
A: No. I resent holidays in general — especially those that come with obligations to buy things and tell people they belong to me. I remember seeing cards as a kid that said, “Be mine,” and thinking, “Are you kidding me?”
Q: If sex is more about social bonding that reproduction, do you believe that humans should be having more sex?
A: Yes, and a LOT more touching. So many people are excluded from sexual intimacy and even basic human touch. There’s a section in my next book where I talk about the sexual frustration underlying the jihadis as well as many mass-shootings in the US. We distort our kids by denying them enough bodily contact and teaching them that touch is dangerous and threatening.
Q: Are Americans having enough sex?
A: Like money, water, decorative pillows … you know you’ve had enough sex when it feels like too much. But again, it’s not really about “sex” so much as intimacy and physical affection. I think a lot of people have sex when what they’re really after is just touch and feeling loved. So we can become compulsive about the sex because what we’re really after is something else.
Q: Is sex a cure to violence?
A: Sexual frustration underlies a lot of violence.
Q: Would you rather be a Chimp or a Bonobo?
A: Ha! I see absolutely no way in which chimp life holds a candle to bonobo life.
Q: Humans have more sex than any other mammal. Are we still sexually repressed? Should we be having even more?
A: Some of us should be having more sex. Some should be having better sex. And some should just be getting touched a lot more. There comes a time in life when a foot massage is beyond orgasmic.
Q: Do we need to re-define monogamy in the age of AI?
A: We need to define it before we re-define it. Porn? Wayward thoughts and fantasies? Dreams? Sexting?
Audience Homework Assignment
For those interested in attending our Valentine’s Day lecture with Dr. Ryan, limited tickets are available here. We anticipate a sold-out event and tickets will not be available at the door. We do ask that attending guests take a moment to watch Dr. Ryan’s most recent TED talk, Are We Sexual Omnivores? And please come with your questions – there will be an audience Q + A after the lecture.